March 25, 2015

Ways to Stay True To Blogging

Sometimes I know this space is more empty than it should be. Sometimes I have the drive and the excitement to get back into blogging. Sometimes I have a whole list of topics that I am ready to write about. But then, sometimes my drive stops and discouragement comes. Over the past few months, I have seen sides of blogging that just haven't been the happiest. I have seen a lot of repetitiveness with bloggers, the same walk, the same photos, the same talk. I felt like I have been spiraling down to this place that "looks the way I should as a blogger" but that is nothing like I actually want to be.

I want my blog to be a place of honesty. I want to proclaim the Lord, I want to share about Him and have every topic honoring to Him. I want to be known as the blogger who LOVES everyone and who will be here with every email, every text, every call, just being a friend. I want to be a blogger who is known for talking about the really ugly times rather than the really easy times. In the past, Ive been discouraged because I have seen a lot of falseness going on with proclaiming who we are online and how we are in person. That is the last thing I want here.
Ive been thinking of things that blog friends have said in the past, things I have felt over the past few weeks and just things in general that we need to do in order to keep our hearts tied to our blogs.

Ways to Stay True to Blogging:
1. Don't worry about the stats. These things can tieee you down. Just about every blogger I know will probably agree to this one. We can get so consumed with how many views, how many followers, how many comments...it will just drive you crazy.Plus, blogging isn't about your stats, its about you expressing, reflecting and showing us who you are.

2. Reflect who you are offline. This is probably THE biggest step with staying true to your blog. Its simple, just reflect yourself! Let others feel as if they are sitting down and having coffee with you. I am so glad to say that every blog friend I have met offline has been such a reflection of their blogs. That is what continues to build community and remember to never be afraid of showing who you really are!

3. Choose topics that interest yourself. If there is a topic you love, odds are someone else will love it as well. I have created posts that were simply about the things I love and they turned out to be some of my most viewed posts (using an example here, not relating to stats :) ) There is so much we can chat about on our blogs and talking about things that are true to your heart will really reflect on your page.

4. Stop trying to be perfect. One thing that really made me frustrated in myself was trying to be perfect with my blog. I would love to be a blogger who posts three or more times a week because to me, the more you post, the more community is built. But lets be real here, I have a full time job, full time school, becoming very involved in my church, a husband to be with, friends to spend time with, a house to clean, dinner to cook and time to just be for myself. Sometimes blogging just does not fit in there and Ive finally come to realize that. One day I would love continual posts all throughout the week, but I have finally come to a place to know that if life happens, its okay to miss a day of blogging.

5. Create a space that is you. Whether this is your layout, your photos, your content, just reflect yourself. Readers want to know who you are and what you are all about. It is so, so easy being you! Never let your space become a place where you are creating posts just to say certain things or taking Instagram photos just to gain more likes. BE YOU. Community and friendship is built on knowing all about the good times, the hard times and the honest times.

What I caught myself doing in the past was saying "blog for the reason you first started blogging." Go back to the roots of why you created your blog, what you wanted to share and what you wanted to express within yourself. Oh, and never create a lifestyle blog with the number one goal making money. This is where the above five statements can get a little rocky. Blogging can be one of the most beautiful pieces of our lives if we allow it to be. The friendships I have created would have never happened without this little space and it is simply a place to let the online community be used for good purpose. Always, always, always let yourself shine through your posts and generally all around your blog. You are so loved and there are plenty of people who are very excited that you are who you are!

22 comments:

  1. Thank you, thank you Lauren for posting this. This is has been one of the biggest struggles for me and my blog. I get so discouraged sometimes because I see that my following isn't what others have, my content isn't trending as much, and it hurts. Every time that I begin to feel the frustration and hurt I am reminded of why I've built my blog in the first place...to be a place to document my marriage, my walk with God, my love for family, and adventures that we experience. I don't want to lose that or become generic. Thank you for this reminder and for reassuring me that I'm not the only one who feels this way. <3 Sending you so much love!

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  2. all of this is so true! i agree so much with blogging about what interests you most, being true to YOU and the trying not to be perfect- is key! be you. i love the community of people surrounding us- makes this whole process so special. keep being you- you inspire so many. i love sincerely lo! xo

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  3. I love all of these tips!! I have struggled with falling into the trap of doing what everyone else is doing. I want to have a page that glorifies God. I forget why I started.

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  4. Absolutely!!
    The blogging community is seriously one of the best.

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  5. Stats, yes! I stress and at times I just simply refuse to look at them unless I have to.

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  6. I agree! It's important to have blog role models, but the second you try to make your blog exactly like their blog, nobody wants to read it! I love the point about staying true to yourself.

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  7. This is so important! I sometimes have trouble with being open and truly myself on my blog, but I also love that blogging is such a great outlet to express ourselves and share life with others. I especially agree with not focusing on the stats, and learning that we don't have to be perfect or have everything together. It's when we realize this that power of real community can happen!

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  8. All of these are so true! When I first started blogging I was all about the stats, now I rarely pay attention to them and it has helped me be more me!

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  9. One of my favorite things is when bloggers post their failures. It's so relatable!

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  10. I so needed to read this today! I've been a in a blogging flunk and I don't really know why. This was super encouraging! The stats thing gets me every single time.

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  11. Great advice! It's easy to get wrapped up in making your blog popular and to forget why you are blogging in the first place.

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  12. You know what? Thanks so much for posting this. You are completely spot on and it's a great reminder for anyone. I believe to blog like you are offline is important. I really want to have a voice (as small as it may be now) but I have spent many years just now knowing who I am now I feel like I do and It's something I want to. Thanks so much for this.

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  13. Love this!! My biggest struggle is reflecting myself. I'm actually quite quiet and more a listener in person..that doesn't work too well in blogging though, lol. I do have things to say though, it's just trying to figure out how I would say those.

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  14. This is a AMAZING post!!! Hands down phenomenal. So true and such a great post that was much in need!!

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  15. Thanks for sharing! This post came right on time. I'm about authenticity as well and staying true to who I am on and offline. I don't want to publish content just to say I published a post. It does become discouraging looking at stats. I will now focus on publishing great content and building my community online. Great article!

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  16. These are great! I love the not being perfect part. I just try to be open, honest, and raw. Which for me, is far from perfect

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  17. This is so helpful! I keep finding myself falling into the same blogging rut over and over as well, and especially struggling to find inspiration and motivation where previously there was an overflow of it. I will definitely keep these tips in mind the next time I am having these problems. Thanks!

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  18. These are some amazing advice! It is easy to get lost in this blogging life.. Thank you so much for this post! =)

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  19. LOVE this, Lauren! Such good food for thought. :) I think it's so important to set your own expectations based on what works for you, and not what everyone else seems to be doing. Otherwise, there would be major burnout, y'know?

    So glad you shared this!

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  20. Love this. so glad i found your blog x

    Sharon

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  21. 5 years into blogging and I still need to hear this :)

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  22. Just started a blog and I'm kind of nervous about it...so I'm glad I stumbled upon this post. :) Thank you!

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