Being a woman who is constantly growing in Christ, everything that I do revolves around Him. Everything I watch, everything I take action in, everything I allow myself to be surrounded by...but I do this so that I can give God the glory in every aspect of my life. My biggest goal is to teach others about the Good News of Christ. I am in the process of becoming a small group leader for teen girls at our church...which is so scary let me add...but my goal is to teach these girls how to grow up and live a life that God intends for us to have, to teach them how to guard their hearts and to teach them about some of the hardest topics like relationships, sex or intimacy. But lets be honest here, my heart needs to stay guarded as well because whatever I surround myself by is what will come out in my actions, speech, feelings, relationships, advice and so on.
My husband and I have been going through an older series that our church created called "Love Song." It is an 8 week series where our preacher got down to the nitty gritty. One thing that I adore about my church is that they talk, and they talk about it all. But the whole series was taught from the Song of Solomon and we see this couple, Solomon and a woman that he is madly in love with. We read about the honor this woman has for Solomon, the admiration that she carries for him...but in a respectable way. She knows her boundaries and he respects them. We read about Solomon who is a comforter to this woman. He encourages her and respects her for her character rather than her physical beauty.
To sum up the very long series in a nutshell, romance is dangerous whenever it lacks honor. We are in a world where relationships are lacking respect for one another, where meaning is only physical. Sex is one of, if not the biggest joked and disrespected topics on almost every television show you watch. On top of that, the lack of respect for ones self is fading. Some women wear clothes allowing things to be seen that should be kept for their husband's eyes only. Some men just flat out do not show respectable actions towards women. We live in this world where instant satisfaction and worldly pleasures are at our fingertips. We can easily get online and search for pornography, we can easily go grab one of those dirty novels and create this vision of what our husbands are supposed to be like. There are affairs, lust and the list could go on and on.
Friends, that is where the problem is, sex does not have honor and today I wanted to share some quick reasons to why this movie should be skipped this weekend, and the weekends to come.
It portrays sex as a demeaning, non-passionate act.50 shades takes sex and creates it to be this game. It takes something so precious and turns it into a immoral, pornographic state. God designed sex to be beautiful and personal between a man and his wife. It is a way that love can be shown to one another in a pure way, not in a way that 50 Shades portrays.
It is characterized as a love story.Yall, this is not love. Love is not lead by sex, love is lead by honor and character. Am I saying the physical side is not important? Of course not, but love should not be generated on physical sides of things. In this movie we see a girl who develops feelings for a man, yet the man only wants sexual feelings for her. But, at the end of the movie, they both end up in love, go on to live happily ever after and this is what Hollywood wants you to see as a love story. This is not love in any way, shape or form.
It is thought of as "helping a hurting marriage."I cant count how many times I have read comments, tweets and posts about a wife or husband who believe they need this movie so their love life can be spiced again. No, no and no. This movie will do anything but help spice a romance, a healthy romance at least. Rather than turning to this movie in search for a new love, turn to Jesus and let him restrengthen your marriage. Because I can promise you this, He will change your marriage in a way that this movie could never, ever do.
It makes pornography look normal.
It sets our hearts on anything but purity.
Philippians 4:8 reminds us "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things."This movie creates a place of lust, guilt and a need to be wanted. But the problem is, this isn't the type of "want" that should be desired. When searching for a spouse, search with a feeling that isn't lead by the need to feel wanted or a desperation to be told you are loved. But search with a pure heart, guard your heart. Let me say this, if you are searching for a love so you can finally feel wanted, you need to stop searching. When we see movies such as this that portray a desire to feel wanted, we see how it escalates into a relationship all about sex rather than about love. I encourage you to first find your love in the Lord and He will lead you from there.
So, there you have it. If you don't agree, that is fine. I'm not here to point a finger or tell anyone that they are wrong. That is not what Jesus would have done either. My goal is to tell others that there is a love out there that isn't like this "love" the movie tells you to have. There is a love that is so pure with our Almighty and our spouses. For you that are dating, keep your love sacred and wait until you call your other, your only for forever. I promise you, when Jesus is the cornerstone in your relationship, intimacy and love will be so strongly bonded that nothing will be able to come in between.